The Confidence Project
The Podcast for Smart Women who doubt themselves, overthink and tend to hide in the background!
You can be the smartest woman in the room and still have the worst inner critic, causing you to doubt and second guess yourself, overthink endlessly, procrastinate, perfectionate, replay conversations in your head and hold yourself back - even when you know what you want to say and do. You miss out on opportunities in life, you don’t feel fulfilled and you think everyone else is more successful and happy than you.
In this podcast certified Lifecoach, L֥ærke Nielsen, teaches you how to start trusting your inner authority, develop strong self-belief, feel great about yourself and build the courage to speak up and move forward without second guessing yourself.
You will learn how to stop the overthinking and get out of your head, how to shift the tone of your self-talk from inner critic to inner coach, how to stop playing small and avoiding risks and how to not let fear of other people’s opinions stop you from taking actions.
This is not just a cosy self help podcast – this is an identity rewire – you are becoming a woman who fully believes in herself and who knows she is capable of creating an extraordinary life!
NB: Episodes 1-141 are from the previous Smart Women’s Dating Podcast and The Love & Confidence Podcast
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Episodes
144 episodes
142. The Gift of Gratitude & The Bonus Life! (+ NEW FOCUS on Podcast)
In this very personal episode I am sharing some thoughts and reflections I had in 2025 and moving into 2026. I am also sharing some of the changes that are coming in the podcast and in my business.
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Episode 142
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22:41
141. Something New Is Coming
The Podcast is going to take a short break and come back later in a new format and with new, exciting content. In this episode I share a few personal updates with you and leave you with a heartwarming story that shows that there is hope for all...
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Episode 141
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16:31
140. Why Safety Matters Even If You Are Strong And Independent
Feeling safe is the number one feeling most women want with a man. Not the only one of course, but it's the feeling they focus on, when I ask them what they imagine feeling once they have met their future partner. In this episode I share some r...
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Episode 140
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17:32
139. Better Off Single?
More and more women are tempted to just quit dating and give up on the idea of ever finding a man who can commit to a stable relationship. They prefer the peace of single life over an emotional roller coaster with a man who isn't capable of or ...
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Episode 139
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13:47
138. How To Recognize A Secure Person
There are some very basic traits and qualities that caracterise someone who is securely attached in a relationship. These qualities are worth looking for and also worth cultivating in yourself. In this episode I share what they are and also the...
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Episode 138
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14:20
137. Communication Challenges for Anxiously Attached
In this episode I share some reasons why anxiously attached people often struggle with clear and honest communication. I give examples on what that could look like so you can see if this is you. And then I guide you to become better at speaking...
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Episode 137
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18:00
136. Seven Acts of Self-Love
What does it mean to love yourself? And how does it show up in your choices and behavours? In this episode I share 7 ways you can choose to show up from self-love in dating.
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Episode 136
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13:59
135. A Small But VERY Important Shift In Dating
If you want to simplify your dating life, here is just ONE simple tool that you can use to assess whether a man could be a good choice for you, and you can use this tool from the very first date. This will help you to not miss out on the good g...
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Episode 135
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14:09
134. Take Charge Of Your Life
This is about how you can flip everything around and step out of your conditioning and into being in power of your life and how you see your self. It's about intentionality. How to shift from feeling out of control and in a repetitive cycle of ...
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Episode 134
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12:34
133. The Power Of Having A Life Purpose
Having that thing that you feel passionate about and that gives your life meaning and purpose is crucial for your own well being, resilience and self confidence. But it's also something that makes you more attractive in dating, turns you into a...
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Episode 133
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14:37
132. How To Not Get Into The Low-Effort Energy
Low effort energy is contageous - once you experience low effort from guys in the dating app, you eventually stop wanting to make an effort yourself. But then the problem is that you attract only low-effort people. In this episode I share wth y...
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Episode 132
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13:58
131. Why You Are Not Attracting Commitment Ready Men
If you find yourself repeatedly attracting men, that are not ready for or interested in a commitment, then the real reason might be that on a subconscious level you are not ready for the commitment yourself. In this episode I give you 3 d...
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Episode 131
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15:40
130. How To Forgive And Why It's The Best You Can Do You Yourself
What does it really mean to forgive, and what are some reasons we struggle to let go of anger and resentment? In this episode I share with you, what forgiving means and what it doesn't mean, and why forgiving is an act of self love, and I give ...
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Episode 130
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21:27
129. Six Steps To Be Happy As A Single Woman
If you are not happy in your single life, you will most likely not be happy in a relationship. Knowing how to cultivate a fun and fulfilling single life is key to attracting a healthy relationship, but also to stay balanced inside a relationshi...
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Episode 129
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18:09
128. What If I Am Not Attracted To The Good Guy?
Can you make yourself fall for someone? Or rather - can you increase chances that it will happen, if you are a good match? This is what this episode is about. Taking charge of your emotional life and facilitating attraction when its possible, a...
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Episode 128
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12:01
127. How To Stop Feeling Attracted To The Wrong Men
In this episode you'll learn what attraction really is and how you can influence who you are attracted to so you can recognize when you are about to fall for the emotionally unavailable guy, that isn't a good match for you, and stop yourself be...
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Episode 127
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14:08
126. The Myth About Love At First Sight
Do you believe that true love starts at first sight? And that for a connection to turn into the ideal relationship, sparks and attraction must be there on the very first date? Then you have to listen to this episode where I poke a whole in the ...
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Episode 126
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17:19
125. How To Let Go Of Someone
If you are struggling to let go of someone - after a breakup, or even a situationship, you want to listen to this episode, where I give you the simple shift you need to start moving forward. Letting go is a decision, and you get to make that de...
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Episode 125
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11:01
124. Three Surprising Ways To Move On After Breakup
Once you have passed the initial stages of grief after a breakup and you still don't feel at your best, but you know something needs to happen to move yourself forward, then you need this episode. Here I give you ideas to 3 action steps you can...
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Episode 124
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15:48
123. What Happens Inside The Emotionally Unavailable Person?
We talk a lot of talk about emotionally unavailable men, and how to recognise the signs and avoid getting involved in someone who isn't emotionally available. But what really happens inside that person? What are the psychological reasons for th...
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Episode 123
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19:10
122. The Commitment Fear That No One Talks About
Fear of commitment is typically something we associate with emotionally unavailable men, right? Well, think again, because a lot of women have commitments fear, but it just shows up in a different way and can be more subtle. In this episode I s...
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Episode 122
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30:26
121. Seven Steps to Let Go Of Anxious Attachment
If you feel that dating is an emotional rollercoaster—and you find yourself overthinking, constantly checking your phone, and feeling a sense of panic when someone takes too long to reply - or if you are consumed with fear that the person you'r...
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Episode 121
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19:21
120. How To Get What You Want - Through Self-Fulfilling Positive Prophecies
Did you know that your thoughts are shaping your reality—whether you realize it or not? Every day, you're creating self-fulfilling prophecies. The question is: Are they working for you or against you? Most of us unconsciously reinforce negative...
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Episode 120
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16:14
119. From Undateable To Self-Love
We all have perceived flaws and imperfections, and some of them might feel like reasons we are "undateable" or reasons a man would lose interest if he found out. Thoughts about your perceived flaws can block you in dating and make you show up l...
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Episode 119
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19:08
118. Five Signs That You Are Not Being Yourself In Dating
Just "be yourself" - you've heard it a million times and you know its true, but it's easier said than done. Especially when you meet someone you really like, and it's all very new - you might find yourself trying to impress him or adapt to his ...
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Episode 118
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13:52